Homework Helper

You also want to make sure that the amount of time required for homework is age appropriate – the recommendations are about ten minutes per grade level, i.e. ten minutes for first grade, twenty minutes for second grade and so on and so forth. As my children have a dual curriculum, I would permit ten minutes for secular subjects and ten minutes for Judaic subjects. If the homework is taking too long, I would speak to the teacher to make sure my children are prepared.

Now, assuming your children have the appropriate homework amount and practice level, let’s talk about one of the biggest obstacles to regular completion: after school activities.

Really, I would advise parents to avoid extracurricular activities at all costs.

If your children beg and plead, I would allow just one per week, and that is only if they are old enough to get back and forth by themselves. As most parents are holding down a full time job, the afternoon is short enough without spending it dropping and picking up children from various activities.

Many working parents, perhaps out of a sense of guilt or because of the benefits emphasized by the organizers of the activity, have a full schedule for their children after school. I know someone who came home at 5 pm, and would spend the next few hours dropping and picking up different children at different activities. In between, she would throw in a load of laundry and whip up a basic supper or order takeout. When the children would finally come home, always at different times, they would eat dinner in their rooms while trying to catch up on their homework. Their mother had them enrolled in these sports-related activities because they were good at them. Yet, they were losing out on family time and causing their mother a great deal of stress. If a child has real talent, these extra activities could be scheduled in the summer.

Another friend would come home at 6, take her children to a sensory gym, return at 8, make a quick dinner and do homework with the kids, i.e. do it for them because by that time the children were too tired to think, and then, only after 9, finally have a moment to get anything done in the house. This schedule was stressful for everyone.

There is a major advantage to just relaxing and decompressing after a long day of school, especially for those children who attend schools with a dual curriculum. There are so many studies that show that overstimulation is counter-productive. If you feel that your children need exercise, simply remove any screens and hand them a ball. I promise they will figure out what to do with it soon enough, and might even make friends with the neighbors at the same time!

Finally, with a cleared schedule, the best way to get them to sit down and actually do their work is by making it part of their schedule. My children prefer to eat dinner and then do their homework. Yes, this means my children eat dinner very early. However, you have to do what works best for your family. That may mean having a healthy snack waiting for them when they come home and dinner later.

In our house, as soon as dinner is over, we clear the table and bring out homework. The kids begin by doing whatever work can be done on their own and then they come over to me for help with kriyah or testing. Once homework is done, signed, and put away, they can go outside and play. This gives them the incentive to get their homework done as quickly as possible, so I can then focus on my own homework while the kids are outside playing. Of course, if you don’t have any of your own work to do, take the time to relax a bit – you definitely deserve it!